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You Don’t Have to Answer the Door Just Because It Knocked
Boundaries start at the threshold.
I don’t always answer.
Messages. Emails. Social pings.
Even actual doors.
Not because I’m rude.
But because I’ve learned the hard way what happens when you make yourself too reachable:
you start to disappear.
The pressure to be constantly available
There’s an unspoken rule in modern life —
that if someone knocks, you owe them your attention.
That responsiveness is a form of politeness.
That to pause, or wait, or not reply at all… is somehow a breach.
But availability isn’t the same as kindness.
And being constantly open to others often means being permanently closed to yourself.
Why it’s okay to curate your interruptions
Some knocks matter.
Some don’t.
Not everything that demands your attention deserves it.
It’s okay to screen. To wait. To decide.
Not out of arrogance — but discernment.
