Truly Selfish?
We tend to think of selfishness and benevolence as being polar opposites. But colloquialism as always veils the true nature of things.
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You see, my wellbeing depends on the interactions I have with you and with my thoughts about you. And so I will love you because I love myself.
Paradoxically, the wisest way to be selfish is to care deeply and truly unconditionally about all things sentient (including oneself). It could manifest itself as a simple form of a sincere prayer or a real attempt to alleviate someone's pain.
Those that are highly self-absorbed, that have their lens of reality so utterly distorted by the wounds of their callous upbringing, unhealed and unresolved, may find it immensely challenging, almost blasphemous, to truly value the individual standing before them. They're destined, partly by their own making, to never be able to relish true companionship or genuine love.
I’d say narcissists aren’t selfish enough. Their actions of selfishness and abuse only make them and their inner worlds more and more miserable. Now that’s pretty pathetic! You’re supposed to be a pro at this game.
