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What if the love you imagine is not the love you need?
The fantasies we chase and the imperfect love we often overlook (platonic love, forgiveness and overcommitments)
People grow up believing in soulmates. In “the one.” In the thought that somewhere in this world, there is a person who will understand them without an explanation, love them without conditions, and make every empty part of their lives feel complete.
It sounds beautiful, doesn’t it?
The thought that love is waiting somewhere, untouched and perfect, like a book on a high shelf that has yet to find its reader. But real life rarely follows the stories we tell ourselves. The person we dream of is often an image we have created from the people we have met, the books we have read, and the love we have watched from a distance.
We expect someone to look at our scars and see something beautiful. We want them to understand our silence, notice the words we struggle to say, and offer us passion without taking away our peace. We want excitement, comfort, safety, and the certainty that they will never leave. But have we ever stopped to ask ourselves what we are bringing into that relationship?
Would you choose yourself? Would you love yourself with all the fears you hide, the mistakes you regret, and the parts of…
