I was just watching this one Chinese Drama , it made me realise , how we go after those people who never value us , we do things to make them happy but what we get in return is disappointment . One life lesson that I have learnt not only from this drama but also from my own experiences that if you want to do something for someone then just do it without any expectations . I have zero expectations from this world . when I am sick , I take care of myself even though I don’t feel like doing anything, because in this world you have only you no matter how much you have done for anyone , no one will be there for you , not even your family at some point . Not because they don’t love you but because they themselves aren’t happy their lives , they are trying to find peace in their own lives then how do I expect such vulnerable people to be with me specially when I need them . Life is so difficult for some people since their childhood , some have the worst father who not only does physical violence from the age 3 (that’s the age she remembers, may be she has been brutally beaten up even from the time before that , father who mentally tortures not only one child but all of them .some have the worst mother , who just gives birth to never take care of them no matter how ill they are , may be she herself is unhappy with that cruel husband of hers so I don’t expect her to take care of us and we never expected , but if she couldn’t take care of one ,why did she bring 3 more , despite being a well educated government employee ??? I guess those who have never been cared for , never been loved , they attract those people who will never care for them , and i have attracted only those people who were exactly like those people i have been surrounded with since childhood. Infact even more cruel , friends who I helped , i never found them with me when i needed their help , even if for just a small little things , they showed their true characters . So all these things has taught me to expect zero things form this world and specifically human beings . All these experiences didn’t make me bitter to not help others just there no more expectations. I know people have faced and have been struggling from far difficult situations in their lives , I just wish ,they learn to love themselves , they learn to respect themselves, take care of themselves . Because if you don’t love yourself, no one else will . Once you start enjoying your own company , the world starts feeling beautiful, more peaceful , work on your skills, on your career , make enough money to be able to take care of yourself without anyone’s help . make enough money to fullfill all your dreams without anyone’s help . Financial independence gives you wings to fly peacefully,happily . And to be honest, I feel every one of us have our own pain ,own stories to tell . So , respect everyone no matter how they treat you . Because if they were happy they wouldn’t have been doing what they are doing . A happy person spreads happiness , an empty person can give only emptyness, hollowness . So I have forgiven all of them who have hurt me but I will never forget those lessons . And those lessons have made me to be able to love myself , to be able to enjoy life with myself .