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            <title><![CDATA[The Test Nobody Knows They’re Taking]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/the-test-nobody-knows-theyre-taking-ebaac85eb031?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1100/1*E8cmfN2yjNOwEdm5u1pMNA@2x.jpeg" width="1100"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">Why we&#x2019;d rather wait for reassurance than ask for it.</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/the-test-nobody-knows-theyre-taking-ebaac85eb031?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2026 14:55:06 GMT</pubDate>
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            <title><![CDATA[We Barely Know Each Other. So What Are We Doing?]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/we-barely-know-each-other-so-what-are-we-doing-a6463e62f0b2?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1179/1*yHtQUxU3K2kNcexdpZAnkQ@2x.jpeg" width="1179"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">How something casual gets complicated before anyone decides what it is.</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/we-barely-know-each-other-so-what-are-we-doing-a6463e62f0b2?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 27 Oct 2026 16:03:13 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2026-10-27T16:09:09.761Z</atom:updated>
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            <title><![CDATA[Everybody Wants Love. Nobody Wants to Be the Fool.]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/everybody-wants-love-nobody-wants-to-be-the-fool-f314ae13bd76?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1178/1*zqvN0yc2p1kf_iZeBF_7KA@2x.jpeg" width="1178"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">How dating became a competition to see who can care the least.</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/everybody-wants-love-nobody-wants-to-be-the-fool-f314ae13bd76?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2026 10:01:03 GMT</pubDate>
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            <title><![CDATA[We’re All Performing]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/were-all-performing-e82085f9165f?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1178/1*mtoAu1-vkGiJFC3KO7prDQ.jpeg" width="1178"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">The things we judge in other people look a lot different when we&#x2019;re the ones doing them.</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/were-all-performing-e82085f9165f?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 13 Oct 2026 12:01:03 GMT</pubDate>
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            <title><![CDATA[A Little Favor From My Readers]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Mon, 12 Oct 2026 18:36:31 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>I entered a podcast competition. I’m excited, slightly terrified, and could really use your vote.</em></p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*bIdn357QP8fNaOKkA0TfKQ.jpeg" /></figure><p>I’ve spent a lot of time putting my words out into the world through The Eighth Gate. What I didn’t expect was how much that would push me into trying things I probably wouldn’t have considered a year ago.</p><p>Earlier this year, I entered my first slam poetry competition and won first place, btw. So naturally, when a podcast competition came across my radar, I decided to enter that too.</p><p>It’s called Top Host, and the winner gets $25,000, a six-episode podcast produced by iHeartRadio, and a guest appearance on Ryan Seacrest’s show.</p><p>Which is hilarious because I’m actually terrified.</p><p>Writing is one thing. I can sit behind a screen, rearrange my thoughts, delete an entire paragraph, and pretend I knew what I was doing the whole time. Talking into a microphone and having to think on my feet? Whole different ballgame.</p><p>But I entered anyway, so I guess we’re doing this. Lol.</p><p>I’m officially competing for a chance to host a podcast, and I could really use your support.</p><p>The first voting cutoff is <strong>October 15, 2026</strong>, at 7 PM Pacific (9 PM Dallas time), and apparently you can vote once every day, which means I’m asking for more than one favor here.</p><p>If you’ve ever connected with something I’ve written, shared one of my articles, or quietly followed along with The Eighth Gate, I’d appreciate you taking a minute to vote.</p><p><a href="https://tophost.org/2026/laura-mendiola"><strong>Vote for me here</strong></a></p><p>Thank you for being part of what I’ve been building. I have a lot more I want to do with this voice, even if the thought of actually using it in front of a microphone scares the shit out of me.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=f41ffacd8a8e" width="1" height="1" alt=""><hr><p><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/a-little-favor-from-my-readers-f41ffacd8a8e">A Little Favor From My Readers</a> was originally published in <a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate">The Eighth Gate</a> on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[When Does a Man Become Responsible for Himself?]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/when-does-a-man-become-responsible-for-himself-67878f9b750f?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1179/1*UhR9AGvGKzBFcYYMPbomjw@2x.jpeg" width="1179"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">We raise them, survive them, clean up after them, and somehow their behavior still becomes our fault.</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/when-does-a-man-become-responsible-for-himself-67878f9b750f?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 06 Oct 2026 13:59:20 GMT</pubDate>
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            <title><![CDATA[I Love My Writing Until I Publish It]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/i-love-my-writing-until-i-publish-it-6ab7dcdd6237?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/2160/1*gvz0RQBpsaBRn0xdNa-ooQ.jpeg" width="2160"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">The extremely brief window between &#x201C;this is brilliant&#x201D; and &#x201C;who the fuck do I think I am?&#x201D;</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/i-love-my-writing-until-i-publish-it-6ab7dcdd6237?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 29 Sep 2026 00:27:18 GMT</pubDate>
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            <title><![CDATA[I Knew My Father Was Gone. Three Years Later, I’m Thinking About the Man Who Died.]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/i-knew-my-father-was-gone-three-years-later-im-thinking-about-the-man-who-died-a7071747d574?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/805/1*z9yiTF2NYZA2q83CgZAN4g@2x.jpeg" width="805"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">I loved my dad. I just never really knew him.</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/i-knew-my-father-was-gone-three-years-later-im-thinking-about-the-man-who-died-a7071747d574?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 22 Sep 2026 12:01:01 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2026-09-22T12:01:01.687Z</atom:updated>
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            <title><![CDATA[Kids Don’t Know What Happened Between Their Parents]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/kids-dont-know-what-happened-between-their-parents-4dba8e8e8d8f?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/828/1*PC_QmPhX1urfDapq6qCyCQ@2x.jpeg" width="828"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">It took having relationships of my own to understand what I was actually watching.</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/kids-dont-know-what-happened-between-their-parents-4dba8e8e8d8f?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 22 Sep 2026 00:01:02 GMT</pubDate>
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            <title><![CDATA[You Were Right. Just Not About Why.]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/you-were-right-just-not-about-why-e1e4e2176cac?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/2600/1*s6bCLnBvqP86KxSVnyGFBA.jpeg" width="3024"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">Where intuition ends and overthinking takes over.</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://medium.com/the-eighth-gate/you-were-right-just-not-about-why-e1e4e2176cac?source=rss----af0a4912b1dc---4">Continue reading on The Eighth Gate »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura Mendiola]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 15 Sep 2026 00:01:02 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2026-09-15T00:01:02.124Z</atom:updated>
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