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Three Things You Don’t Want to Get Wrong In Life
Coming from someone who’s learned the hard way.
In my late teens and early twenties, I made some grave mistakes. My self-worth was wrapped up in other people’s opinions; my thoughts were slowly eating me up from the inside out, and I was flat broke. Constantly.
The thing about mistakes is that they can become great teachers. So although I kept making and repeating the same mistakes over and over again, eventually, I started to learn from them, and that’s when everything changed.
Below I’ll explain how I got them wrong, so hopefully you don’t have to.
1. Needing the approval of other people to feel worthy
The most dangerous addiction in life is the approval of other people.
I remember sitting down on day 1 of my first Vipassana meditation course and thinking, “Shit, it’s me. It’s always been me.”
Suddenly there was no one else to blame. There was no one else making me feel small, insignificant, or anxious except myself. All I was doing was sitting down in a quiet room and watching my breath fill up and empty out my lungs. But even in that peaceful and serene environment, I was flooded with rage, sorrow, and guilt. Memories of the past tugged at…
