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The First Honest Thing a Cheater Says Isn’t “I’m Sorry”
After infidelity, everyone waits for the apology, but it isn’t the sentence that matters most.
In the many affairs I have seen, “I’m sorry” isn’t the first honest word. It is a reaction to your pain, a reflexive social script designed to stop the conflict and earn relief, not to reveal the truth, and not an admission of their internal choices.
You see, for a cheater still in self-protection mode, what is always missing is the genuine remorse required to fully own all the conscious, calculated steps they took to betray you, the lies they told, their sneaking around, their mental justifications.
Such a level of accountability is just too threatening for them to approach in the opening moments.
I have read enough stories, mediated, and listened to enough people trying to explain the worst decision of their lives to see that those who are still trying to save themselves usually apologize first; it is those who are finally telling the truth who are usually found taking responsibility for their actions first.
But the thing is:
“I’m sorry,”
carries an almost magical status because we grew up believing they are where honesty begins. Parents…
