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We Were Never the Heroes of Our Own Love Stories
The quiet violence of loving men who never planned to stay
There’s a sound a kitchen makes late at night when you are the only person still awake in it. The refrigerator hums. A faucet drips at a rhythm that sounds almost intentional, almost like a metronome calibrating the slow disintegration of your evening. I know that sound. I’ve stood in that kitchen in a few different apartments, in a couple of cities, and in every one of them I was waiting for a man who’d already fallen asleep. Or at least a man who’d stopped pretending to be awake for me.
I used to think this was romance.
My mother told me, sometime around when I was twenty-three and stupid with it, that marriage was a long hallway with no windows. She said it while peeling potatoes, not looking at me, the knife moving with mechanical efficiency. I remember a piece of skin falling off the potato in one long curl, and how she didn’t pick it up. Just let it sit there on the cutting board getting brown. My mother had been married for something like thirty-four years at that point. She had two kids. She had a husband who just existed in the house like a particularly large piece of furniture that occasionally required feeding. He never hit her. He never screamed at her. He just didn’t see her.
