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AMA: Can anyone switch?
Reader Quesiton: Do you think everyone has a submissive or dominant side, or is that something specific to certain people?
I think that people can perform dominant tasks or submissive tasks, but that doesn’t make them dominant or submissive. It’s sort of a matter of how taxing it is. For some people, stepping into the submissive role is like breathing- life giving, easy, natural. And the same is true for dominants. There are some that are simply that way, for whatever reason.
There are people who switch between the two roles and it doesn’t cost them anything. Either side works for them and it is more dependent on the energy around them as to what side shows up. This isn’t faking anything, it’s more like the light shining on a highlight and making it sparkle.
Miss is like that. I have watched her bottom beautifully to someone else, give a piece of herself in that moment, submit or suffer, but still be completely and utterly my Dominant in the same breath. She can be submissive to someone and dominant to me and it doesn’t really phase her most of the time. I have also seen her submit to me, kneel for me, surrender to me, match my headspace when I switch, and then take back control hours later. We are fluid with each other like that. What matters most to her in the connection that she is making with the other person, and, I think, there is no one right way to do so.
For me, being dominant can take a lot of out of me. I have not found a person that I would want to be submissive to me all of the…
