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How Cultures Denied Females True Love
She said she woke up one morning at 16, and her mother told her she wasn’t going to school. She would be getting married.
As a Caregiver, I went to one of my cases too early. She couldn’t leave early because she wouldn’t be paid. With an hour before she could leave, we began talking about life.
She shared, with a lot of pain and resentment in her heart that was stirred by Something I might have said, unaware of saying it, “I hate my mother because when I was sixteen, I woke up one morning and she told me I am not going to school today. I will be getting married.”
Her words shocked me, and she read my expression and said, “I had dreams of becoming a nurse. I wanted a life for myself that was different from what my world offered me. But this is normal in my world.”
She was 36 years old and had three children. She got pregnant quickly and had her first child before she was seventeen. Her hopes and dreams died physically that morning. Emotionally, mentally, and psychologically, pain and regrets fed them for almost twenty years. They are still being fed.
These words came from my subconscious: “So you never got a chance to experience real love.”
