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Childhood Trauma Denied Us the Opportunity To Grieve For Our Mother
If your mother couldn’t love you, can you grieve for her when she dies?
My Aunt died recently. She was an angel. Her sister, my mother, had seven children. We have a sister we don’t know. My mother must have had a difficult time raising six children. She had five children in six years. She made lots of mistakes that traumatized her children for life. One of them became a great-grandmother and didn’t recover from the trauma we endured.
All of them are grandmothers; two won’t recover. They became grandmothers in their thirties and have allowed the cycle of trauma and mental health hell to continue in their generation. This is heartbreaking to witness the cruelty and pain restarting and continuing in children. Seeing it again hurts ten times more. I fight for my nieces and nephews and find ways to help them destroy that cycle. We must destroy it before it reaches yet another generation, because childhood trauma is becoming a tradition.
Three, including me, one of my sisters, and my only brother, are fighting for our lives to keep hell away. One of my sisters died.
My cousin, my deceased Aunt’s daughter, came to see me today.
